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Robert Greene’s ‘The Art of Seduction’ is a comprehensive exploration of human attraction, revealing the psychological strategies and personality types that drive successful seduction across various social contexts.
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Introduction to The Art of Seduction
Are you a siren, an ideal lover, or an anti-seducer? These are seducer characters and, according to Robert Greene, author of The Art of Seduction, there are 9 of them.
The book was released in 2001 to critical acclaim and became an international bestseller, thanks to Greene’s novel take on seduction.
Greene suggests that seduction underpins social power and, although seemingly subtle, it can have a huge impact. Seduction can topple empires, win elections, and enslave great minds. It is one of history’s greatest weapons.
Join us to discover your seductive character, the 18 types of seducer “victims,” and the four phases of the process of seduction. You can also use the information in the book to protect yourself from seducers who may have immoral motives.
“I do not believe that any of us would exchange places with any other people or any other generation. The energy, the faith, the devotion which we bring to this endeavor will light our country and all who serve it—and the glow from that fire can truly light the world.” — Robert Greene
About Robert Greene
Robert Greene is a highly successful American author. His books primarily focus on strategy, power, and seduction. He is a student of Zen Buddhism, and many of his ideas are supported by the principles of this school of thought. He is currently the author of six international bestsellers.
Greene grew up in Los Angeles and attended the University of California, Berkeley. He went on to complete a B.A. degree in classical studies at the University of Wisconsin-Madison. Before becoming an author, Greene worked around 80 jobs. These included construction worker, translator, magazine editor, and Hollywood movie writer.
In 1995, while working as a writer at Fabrica (an art and media school in Italy), Greene met a book packager named Joost Elffers. Greene pitched a book about power to Elffers and wrote a treatise which eventually became The 48 Laws of Power. Robert Greene is also the author of The Laws of Human Nature and The 33 Strategies of Law.
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StoryShot #1: There Are 9 Seductive Characters
Greene describes specific traits associated with being seductive. To express seductive energy, put yourself into one of the multiple seducer categories.
“Your greatest power in seduction is your ability to turn away, to make others come after you, delaying their satisfaction.” — Robert Greene
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The Siren
This type of person is full of sexual energy. They express it openly and know how to use it to gain power. The name comes from the sirens of Odysseus, who would lure their targets with beautiful singing.
The Rake
This type of person completely adores the gender they are attracted to. This desire is infectious and seeps into surrounding people. Unlike most people, Rakes are unrestrained and open to being a slave to their desires. Rakes have a reputation for being sexually successful.
To adopt the Rake role, focus less on what you say and more on how you make the other person feel. It is the form that matters, not the content. Also, let yourself go and get lost in sexual moments.
The Ideal Lover
This type of person appreciates beauty and appearance, and they apply this to romance. Casanova is a perfect example of an Ideal Lover. After meeting a woman, he would study her and follow her moods. He would find out what this woman was missing in her life and provide it.
Importantly, to be an effective Ideal Lover, appeal not only to the other person’s physical side. You must also appeal to, as Greene puts it, “their better selves, to a higher standard of beauty”, and they won’t even notice they are being seduced.
The Dandy
Dandies are fluid individuals who are happy to adapt, which makes them attractive. Dandies are exciting because you can’t put them into a box. The people they seek to seduce are drawn to them as they display the freedom that other people wish they had.
The Natural
Naturals are always spontaneous and open. They embody the longed-for qualities of childhood. They are sincere and unpretentious, accepting and joyful. Naturals use sympathy as a way to seduce. They display their weaknesses, which then act as a virtue. People feel sympathetic to Naturals and want to protect them romantically.
The Coquette
This type of person is always self-sufficient. They do not need you, and that makes you want them more. People who are easy to seduce are not attractive. As humans, we like a romantic chase. Coquettes’ most significant strength is how they can delay gratification.
The Charmer
Charmers will always want to know how they can please you. They are effective at satisfying as they are also very social. They will not argue or fight with people but charm their way out of difficult situations. This makes charmers naturally pleasant to be around.
The Charismatic
Charismatics display illusive confidence, as they are highly intense yet detached. This combination of features means people think Charismatics know what they’re doing. Charismatics are theatrical and uninhibited. They are the life and soul of the party, and everybody loves them. They believe in ‘something’ and aren’t afraid to tell people. Charismatics are also willing to be vulnerable. This vulnerability makes them lovable.
The Star
Stars are the most mysterious type of seducer. They seduce people by offering them an escape from the difficulties of life. They promise fantasies and dreams. As well as guaranteeing the world, Stars make sure they are vague and ethereal. They try to keep their distance and, instead of giving people what they want, they let people imagine it.
“Try to persuade a person by appealing to their consciousness, by saying outright what you want, by showing all your cards, and what hope do you have? You are just one more irritation to be tuned out.” — Robert Greene
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StoryShot #2: Don’t Be An Anti-Seducer
Anti-Seducers repel others. There are many types of Anti-Seducer, but they all have one thing in common: Insecurity. We need to notice if insecurity is creeping into our behavior and remove it. If we can block our insecure thoughts and make sure we don’t act them out, we will instantly become more seductive. Here are some types of Anti-Seducer that you might have come across:
The Brute – They only want one thing, and they won’t wait. These people are arrogant and obnoxious.
The Suffocator – They are clingy and over the top. They don’t even know who they are, let alone who you are. This doesn’t stop them from suffocating you.
The Moralizer – They show no independence in their thoughts. They drop their morals to do whatever you want them to do.
The Tightwad – Insecurity doesn’t have to be only emotional or sexual. If someone is financially tight, this shows they are insecure.
The Bumbler – They are nervous when talking and make others feel uncomfortable.
The Windbag – This person loves the sound of their own voice. They don’t ever listen to you and won’t shut up when they should.
The Reactor – This person reacts terribly to being challenged.
The Vulgarian – This person doesn’t work hard to seduce you. They expect they have already won you over before putting any work in.
StoryShot #3: There Are 18 Types of Seducer Victims
“People are more complicated than the masks they wear in society.” — Robert Greene
If you can understand the different reactions to seduction, you will be better equipped to seduce people. You must identify the true person behind their appearance. A person might display themselves in a certain way but want to be seduced by somebody who can challenge this. The most important thing to remember is, simply, never seduce your own type (unless you’re a Floating Gender).
The Reformed Rake or Siren
These people were once the seducers. They were extremely successful sexually, but they eventually had to give up this lifestyle. All you have to do with this type is cross their path, allowing you to seduce them. However, make sure you act like they are the ones doing the seducing.
The Disappointed Dreamer
These people were introverted children, delving deep into fantasy books and popular culture. Because of this, they often have significant pent-up passions to release. They have great imaginations, so if you drop a hint, their mind will run wild.
The Pampered Royal
These people were spoiled rotten when they were younger. They are sitting around, waiting for their Prince Charming. They are searching for the one person who can give them what they crave. To seduce this type, provide many distractions, like new places to visit or novel experiences.
The New Prude
Prudery isn’t just about sex. A prude is somebody who worries about their appearance and doing things outside society’s norms. However, deep down, they are excited by doing naughty things and naughty people. You can start seducing the New Prude by letting them criticize you.
The Crushed Star
These people were once the center of attention but are not any longer. You can tell a Crushed Star by how they respond to attention in social settings. If they suddenly perk up when given the limelight, you know they are a Crushed Star. To seduce them, tap into this by giving them your full attention.
The Novice
The Novice is especially curious. They are innocent yet interested in opportunities to be less so. To seduce a Novice, mix your qualities. You want to be playful but with childlike innocence. Sinister, yet romantic.
The Conqueror
Conquerors have a remarkable amount of energy that can be difficult to control. Conquerors might appear shy and reserved, but you can tell a Conqueror by their work and relationships. They love a chase, so try to be a little challenging to conquer.
The Exotic Fetishist
We’re all interested in the exotic. However, the Exotic Fetishists take this to the next level. All their life choices seem to revolve around exoticism. They often love to travel, adore music and art, and have a rebellious streak. The best way to seduce them is to become exciting and exotic yourself.
The Drama Queen
Drama Queens love drama. If there isn’t drama in their life, they will be bored. You sometimes have to start minor arguments with these types to keep them interested.
The Professor
Professors analyze and criticize everything. They are highly intelligent and think about even love or sex logically. However, they want to be free of their mental prison and yearn for pure physicality and passion.
The Beauty
The Beauty gains power based on their appearance, but this also offers a source of unhappiness. They are constantly worrying about their power, which diminishes if they lose their beauty. To seduce a Beauty, validate their looks and intelligence. Distract them from their insecurities and let them chase you.
The Aging Baby
This is the type of person who has never grown up. They want somebody who can act like an adult figure. To seduce them, you must appear responsible, and not criticize their behavior.
The Rescuer
These people have fantastic empathy. They listen well and want people to open up and talk. To seduce them, exaggerate your weaknesses. Don’t do this through overt words or gestures; let them sense it.
The Rouรฉ
This type of person has experienced many pleasures in life. They probably have lots of money and might still be wealthy. They love the young and innocent. To seduce them, try to appear innocent and resist their advances at first.
The Idol Worshiper
These people are not satisfied being by themselves, so they search for somebody to worship. Idol Worshipers often pour their energy into a cause or religion. To seduce them, you need to become the object of their worship. A good way of doing this is to adopt their passions.
The Sensualist
Sensualists have over-reactive senses. They are often quite shy and reserved. To seduce them, take them to beautiful places and pay attention to detail.
The Lonely Leader
Leaders are treated differently from other people. This can impact their personalities and what they want. They are looking for somebody who will act as their equal or even superior. Being blunt with them will come across as being genuine.
The Floating Gender
These people dislike the burden of distinct genders. They are searching for somebody who thinks along the same lines. Be welcoming and show them they can relax around you and be whoever they want to be. If you are not a Floating Gender yourself, you should not pursue another Floating Gender.
“Seduction is a game of psychology, not beauty, and it is within the grasp of any person to become a master at the game. All that is required is that you look at the world.” — Robert Greene
Story Shot #4: The First Phase of the Seductive Process Is Separation — Stirring Interest and Desire
In the second section of the book, Greene provides 24 tactics to help you get into the mind of your victim. They proceed from initial contact to a successful conclusion, in loose order.
“Your victims live in their own worlds, their minds occupied with anxieties and daily concerns. Your goal in this initial phase is to slowly separate them from that closed world and fill their minds with thoughts of you.” – Robert Greene
Choose a person to seduce and get their attention. For those who are more resistant, take a slower and more indirect approach. For those who are easier to reach, try a more mysterious presence. Make them aware of what they are lacking in their life and instill feelings of emptiness. Consider what pleasure awaits them, and reflect on their values. Charm and delight them with what they want and need. Finally, lure them with irresistible pleasure or adventure and they will follow your lead.
Tactic #1: Choose the Right Victim
Look for someone with a void you can fill, or who sees something exotic in you. Greene suggests looking for someone who is isolated or unhappy, or who can be made to be so, as well as someone with a quality that inspires strong emotions in you. By handpicking the right target, you can create the perfect chase and enjoy a successful seduction.
“Every seduction has two elements that you must analyze and understand: first, yourself and what is seductive about you; and second, your target and the actions that will penetrate their defenses and create surrender.” — Robert Greene
Tactic #2: Create a False Sense of Security – Approach Indirectly
If you’re too direct early on, you risk stirring up resistance that cannot be lowered. When you first approach, avoid looking like a seducer in any way.
Begin your seduction from an angle, indirectly, so that the target gradually notices you. Approach them through a third party or cultivate a relatively neutral relationship, moving slowly from friend to lover. First lull the target into feeling secure, then you can strike.
Tactic #3: Send Mixed Signals
Sending mixed signals is a way to intrigue and draw people in by hinting at contradictory qualities. Be subtle and consider your target audience, as some people may prefer straightforwardness.
Tactic #4: Appear to Be an Object of Desire – Create Triangles
To appear desirable and make your target crave your attention, create an aura of being wanted by many. You can do this by building a reputation and making your target feel like they are in competition with your past and present admirers.
Greene calls this “creating triangles.” The idea is to make your target see you as someone desired by others; someone whom they might lose to other admirers. This will make them want you even more.
Tactic #5: Create a Need – Stir Anxiety and Discontent
To create a need, Greene suggests stirring feelings of discontent and unhappiness in your target, so they see you as the solution to their problems. This is based on the idea that pain and anxiety can lead to pleasure, and by creating a sense of need, you open up space to insert yourself into their lives.
However, be careful with this tactic and don’t push too hard, as it could lead to them becoming defensive or angry.
Tactic #6: Master the Art of Insinuation
By using the technique of insinuation, you will avoid making your target defensive when trying to seduce them. This technique involves planting ideas in their minds by:
making bold statements followed by a retraction and apology
making ambiguous comments
giving alluring glances
All these methods can help create a sublanguage that will enter the target’s subconscious and help them to think of your ideas as their own.
Tactic #7: Enter Their Spirit
Most people are locked in their own world, making them stubborn and hard to persuade. To lure them out of their shell and set up a successful seduction, you must enter their spirit. This means:
playing by their rules
enjoying what they enjoy
adapting to their moods
By doing this, you will stroke their deep-rooted narcissism and lower their defenses.
Tactic #8: Create Temptation
Creating temptation means giving your target a glimpse of potential pleasures and hinting that you can lead them to their desires. Keep it ambiguous to arouse their curiosity and make them more likely to follow you.
StoryShot #5: The Second Phase Is to Lead Astray
To keep your victims emotionally attached, surprise them with pleasant things and keep them off balance with mystery. Titillate their senses and make them see you as delightfully unpredictable. Your greatest danger in this phase is the mere hint of routine or familiarity. You need to maintain some mystery, to maintain a bit of distance so that in y our absence your victims become obsessed with you. Give them a piece of the fantasy and make the rest of the world fade away. Ensure they have no idea of your manipulations, and keep them coming back for more.
Tactic #9: Creating Pleasure and Confusion
To keep your victims hooked, create a sense of surprise by doing something they do not expect and giving them a delightful sense of spontaneity. This keeps the seduction exciting and makes them feel like they are experiencing something new.
Always be one step ahead and in control to take them somewhere exciting and make things seem spontaneous and natural.
Tactic #10: Use the Demonic Power of Words to Sow Confusion
It is important to be mindful of how you speak to someone to create a pleasant experience. This can be done by using seductive language, such as phrases that inflate their emotions, flatter them, and make them feel secure. However, being too flowery or overly ambitious can be seen as pretentious and selfish.
The best approach is to be vague and ambiguous, as this leaves more room for the imagination and creates a fantasy. The goal is to make the other person feel better, but it is important not to overdo it—less is more.
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StoryShot #6: The Third Phase Is The Precipice – Deepening the Effect Through Extreme Measures
The goal of this phase is to create a deeper impact on their minds, forming strong emotions of love, attachment, and tension. Use your hooks to manipulate them, pushing them between hope and despair until they weaken and give in.
Tactic #16: Prove Yourself
If your target is resisting your efforts, they probably have doubts about your motives or the depth of your feelings for them. To dispel these doubts, take a well-timed action that shows how far you will go to win them over.
This self-sacrificing action will overwhelm their emotions. It will allow them to overlook any potential mistakes or foolishness on your part. It’s also important to make your target prove themselves to you, as it raises your own value and covers any blemishes.
Tactic #17: Effect a Regression
Regression calls up childhood emotions and memories to create neediness linked with a parental figure. Depending on the target, you can play the role of the parental figure or the child in the oedipal triangle. This technique can be especially effective on targets that seem serious, full of themselves, and in control.
Tactic #18: Stir Up the Transgressive and Taboo
Stirring up transgressive and taboo feelings can be a powerful way to seduce someone, but it should be done carefully and responsibly. Breaking social limits and taboos can create a strong bond between two people. However, it must be done carefully to avoid crossing any legal or moral boundaries.
It is important to consider the potential consequences of these actions before engaging in them.
Tactic #19: Use Spiritual Lures
Use spiritual lures to allay insecurities and focus on something sublime and spiritual. This will make the target feel light and uninhibited, and make the sexual culmination seem like a spiritual union.
Tactic #20: Mix Pleasure with Pain
The greatest mistake in seduction is being too nice. Instead of overwhelming your target with kindness, try inflicting some pain. This can be done by focusing fully on them in the beginning, then suddenly appearing uninterested. This will make them feel guilty and insecure.
The lower the lows you create, the higher the highs will be. This technique works best on people who have it easy, and those who have power and few problems. Don’t do it too early on, or on people who have recently experienced lots of pain.
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Moving In for the First Kill
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To bring them to a boil, use coldness to spark panic, then send signals that spread sexual desire. Once they are brimming with desire and not expecting the climax, strike and move in for the kill. To keep the relationship going, constantly re-seduce. If the victim is to be sacrificed, do it swiftly and cleanly, so you can move on to the next victim and start the game again.
Tactic #21: Give Them Space to Fall – The Pursuer Is Pursued
To keep your target engaged in seduction, switch up the dynamic by taking a step back and letting them come after you. Hint that you are growing bored or seem interested in someone else to create the illusion that the seducer is being seduced. Balance give and take, as going absent for too long or overdoing it may result in losing your target.
Tactic #22: Use Physical Lures
Robert Greene recommends combining a non-defensive attitude with a charged sexual presence. This will put your target’s mind at ease and awaken their dormant senses. Maintain a relaxed air to lower their inhibitions and use glances, voice, and physical presence to raise the temperature.
However, be aware of potential discomfort or repulsion. Let go of any inhibitions, doubts, or anxieties, and present yourself with confidence and fluidity.
Tactic #23: Master the Art of the Bold Move
Show confidence and don’t give your target time to consider the consequences. Create tension and be overwhelmed by their charm. However, be careful not to be too bold, as it can be off-putting. Take the initiative and make the move when the moment is right.
Tactic #24: Beware of the Aftereffects
After successfully seducing your target, be aware of the aftereffects. If you choose to stay in a relationship, keep the fantasy alive by using absence and creating pain and conflict. Never let them take you for granted.
If you must part, do it quickly and gracefully. This way, your target will always remember the beauty of the seduction.
The Art of Seduction PDF Summary
The Art of Seduction highlights that there isn’t a universal seduction approach.
We have to use our seductive character’s strengths and filter our approach, depending on the other person’s seductive character.
Robert Greene also argues that some people will want their seductive character challenged.
You need to understand the different seductive characters and identify if the person wants to be seduced in line with this or not.
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